Facilitator Spotlight – Ramis Lao

by | Sep 30, 2025

🔦 Meet The Head of Community Engagement


✏️ Name: Ramis Lao
‍🌈 Pronouns: They / Them
📍 Location: Mexico City, Mexico
🎂 Age: 36


🫂 Favorite Cuddle Party Agreement: #6 – You are encouraged to change your mind


💬 Why did you decide to become a Cuddle Party Facilitator?
I’d been hosting cuddle puddles for two and a half years, but I started feeling like I needed more structure and support. I had attended a couple of Cuddle Parties with Yoni Alkan, and I knew I wanted to facilitate the way he did.
Becoming a Cuddle Party Facilitator has helped me feel more confident and better equipped to support my participants in understanding how to create and hold a safe space together 🫶🏽


🌀 What’s your favorite part of facilitating Cuddle Parties?
Oh! That’s easy—the Closing Circle. I love listening to participants share their experiences. It’s beautiful to witness their transformation—from feeling nervous or unsure at the beginning to feeling open, connected, and surprised by how meaningful the experience was 💫


😬 What’s the biggest struggle you face as a Cuddle Party Facilitator?
I tend to get anxious before a party because I want everything to be perfect. My biggest challenge is making space for imperfection and accepting that I can’t control it all.
Learning to be flexible and honest has helped me feel more relaxed at the start of each event—which, in turn, helps everyone else feel more at ease too 🌿


🎮 Fun Fact: Ramis Makes Video Games!
I design and develop video games! It’s a love-hate relationship—it brings me joy, but it’s also the hardest thing I do. Our first published game is called Party Demon, and right now we’re working on a second game about a team of cats trying to defeat the robot overlords 🐱🤖

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