About Me: Marcia Baczynski is an extraordinarily talented workshop designer and facilitator, teacher, coach and leader who is passionate about providing the world with better tools for relationships and sexuality and empowering people to use them. An expert in gender dynamics, sexuality and interpersonal communication, she combines a keen analytical ability with warm personal skills to provide her clients and students with an experience of being seen, being validated, learning something new and feeling smarter for it. In her work with couples and singles, she helps clients to identify what they want out of their relationships and how to create it. As co-creator of Cuddle Party, Marcia has worked with thousands of people, teaching them about boundary-setting, non-sexual intimacy, and effective interpersonal communication. Marcia is a graduate of the University of Georgia, where she studied public relations, history and women’s studies. She has been a Barbara Sher Success Team leader, a guest lecturer on sex and gender at CUNY, and featured speaker at dozens of conferences on relationships and sexuality. From a young age, Marcia has been heavily involved in volunteer work, participating in projects as diverse as the 1996 Olympic Games, HIV education and awaremess, boat-building for kids in alternative schools, and the Burning Man arts festival. Marcia lives in New York with her partner, their pet boa constrictor, and a large collection of Buffy the Vampire Slayer DVDs.
Favorite Cuddle Party Rule: If you’re a Maybe, say No. (You can always change your mind later). I love this rule because it applies in so many situations in life. As a woman raised in the south, it was not always clear that I actually got to choose what I wanted to do, and often there was implicit pressure to say Yes when I felt uncertain about a choice. Recognizing that I can say No when I’m uncertain (and then change my mind later) gave me the experience of free choice in the world, one I exercise regularly. Now, when I say yes to something, whether it’s cuddling, a job proposal, or an evening with a friend, the people in my life know I really mean it!
What I got out of Cuddle Party personally: Creating Cuddle Party and meeting all the extraordinary people who have participated in it over the years has given me more insight into the human condition than any studying could have (and I like studying!) I have met some of the most extraordinary, couragous people who recognize the possibility for more fulfillment and joy in their lives, and who are willing to take the steps to realize it. I’ve discovered more strength in myself and more clarity in how I communicate by seeing how the Cuddle Party rules are actually guidelines for negotiating life. I’ve seen the impact of what we teach transform lives, bringing happiness into dark corners, connection in new ways, more openness and warmth into the world. I’ve seen people lose weight, find mates, and discover parts of themselves they didn’t even know they had. I’ve seen people learn to love themselves, their bodies and who they are in the world. And what I got out of all of this is a whole new respect and love for ordinary people, who in their own way are actually extraordinary.
Who I am as a Cuddle Party Facilitator / What you'll find at my Cuddle Parties: At my Cuddle Parties, you’ll find warmth, acceptance, humor and word-play. You’ll find people learning how to be a better version of themselves. You’ll also find a great diversity of music!