What I got out of Cuddle Party personally: I have gotten a lot better about asking for what I want in all situations. Although like many of us, I am sometimes not even certain WHAT I want. After spending most of my life making sure everyone else was OK, I learned to say YES to the kind of touch that I like best. It takes a lot of nerve to ask for what we want because of the fear of rejection, but once we recognize that even if one person says NO, there are other people we can ask, this becomes a lot easier. I use the Rules of Cuddle in all my affairs.